Listen for postgres events using owner connection url
### Feature description

 I'd like the pg client that's handling the notification subscription to use the owner connection string instead of the client connection string.

### Motivating example

In my environment I use pgbouncer in transaction pool mode by default.  This unfortunately silently eats all notifications coming from postgres as there's not a session to send them back to.  I do separate my postgres client connection string from the owner connection string to limit superuser exposure.   This enables me to still keep the more optimal transaction pooling of pgbouncer for routine client queries/mutations.  The present workaround is to either use session pooling in pgbouncer or drop it entirely unfortunately.

### Breaking changes

For users who don't separate the owner connection string, there's no difference.  For users that do, it might change behavioral expectations on that owner client connection to be short lived.

### Supporting development

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